Raising kids with enough self-confidence to not only survive but thrive, is a goal for many parents. And while the focus is primarily on “self,” parents do play a significant role in how a child develops competence and a strong sense of self, which is important for their health and psychological well-being. 1

Knowing how to encourage your child, and staying clued in on what to say when they look to you for guidance, can mean the difference between a child who believes in themselves and one that often doubts their abilities.

Here are some general guidelines you can follow to help your child develop self-confidence.

• Showing that you’ll love and appreciate them, no matter what will help your child build their self-esteem and feeling of self-appreciation. 2 When these feelings are intact, it’s easier for a child to explore new opportunities and embrace the unknown with confidence, which leads to an increase in self-confidence and a willingness to trust their abilities.
• Make Time to Play 

Kids of all ages learn through play and interactions with others. As a parent, you are often your child’s first “playmate,” which means you are also the first person to help them develop a strong sense of self.

By being fully present through play, spending time together, getting outdoors, or just sitting down and reading their favorite book, you show your child they are valuable and worthy of your time. And when your child feels valuable and supported, they are more willing to take on life’s challenges. 

• Pay Attention to How Often You Praise

Children of all ages like to hear approval from their parents. In fact, praise and positive feedback are often two of the most common ways kids measure their worth. That’s why it is so important to be realistic in how you praise.

Dr. Jeff Nalin, PsyD, a clinical psychologist, and Founder and Executive Director at Paradigm Malibu Treatment Center, says to give positive feedback when your child succeeds at or attempts a new challenge, but refrain from giving unwarranted praise. “Although praise is valuable, children should also be applauded for their competence,” he explains.

• Wait Before You Offer Help

Kids need a lot of practice in life to learn how to manage themselves and overcome obstacles. So giving them the space to try things on their own before offering help builds their self-confidence. “Parents should nurture a child’s ability to solve problems as these will inevitably become a regular part of their life,” explains Nalin. 

• Embrace Risk-Taking 

Mistakes are bound to happen, which is why Nalin says parents should teach children that failure is a part of life and a great learning experience. When children are struggling with a setback, Nalin says it is important that parents offer their unconditional support by listening and offering encouragement, regardless of the end result.

“In times of failure, children should understand that it’s never too late to try again and that the effort is infinitely more valuable than the outcome,” he explains. 

• Check Your Confidence

If you want to help your child develop confidence, you first need to take inventory of your own. “Children are great mimickers, so parents should be conscious of the way in which they handle their own problems,” says Nalin. 

One of the most important parts of parenting is teaching and modeling confidence. By creating an environment that allows your child to feel safe and loved, they may be more willing to take risks, make mistakes, and learn on their own. 

https://www.verywellfamily.com/how-to-help-your-child-develop-self-confidence-4770566