To help kids with autism learn to play, it helps to know the barriers that can affect play skills. For example, some children with autism may have limited interests. They may only play with one or two toys, doing the same action over and over, or only play with parts of toys. They also may:

• Not know how to play with toys
• Be unable to learn just by watching others because it’s hard for them to imitate
• Not have the foundational skills play requires, like issues with coordination

Why play matters

For children, playtime is learning time, and playing with toys and games is very important for developing new skills. Creating interest in toys and games can lead to opportunities for appropriate play instead of engaging in self-stimulating behavior.

During playtime, you can help kids with autism practice communication skills like asking questions and using new words. Some children with autism may not pay attention to others, and playtime is a great way for them to learn that spending time with others can be fun. It’s also a good time to introduce social skills, like taking turns and sharing.

It’s important to help kids with autism improve their play skills, because play is a foundation for learning. During playtime, try working on:

• Foundational learning skills—like attention and flexibility
• Cognitive skills—like problem-solving
• Communication skills—like practicing new words
• Social skills—like taking turns, sharing and talking to peers
• Fine motor skills—like self-feeding and drawing
• Gross motor skills—like running and jumping

Playtime is also a great opportunity to encourage more parent-child interaction. When kids with autism play with their parents, it can set the stage for them to play with their peers in the future. Parents play an important role in a child’s development of all skills, and playtime is a chance to give your child attention and validation. You can also pair yourself with fun, enjoyable activities and create opportunities for learning in a natural environment.

To promote play in your little one:

• Get on her level. Position yourself on the floor or at eye level to promote interaction and make it more likely that your child is aware of your presence.
• Copy her actions when appropriate. Imitating your child’s actions can show your approval and make it more likely that she will imitate you or be aware of your actions in the future.
• Make it fun. Being silly and modeling fun things to do with toys based on your child’s interests can increase your child’s interest in toys and help teach play.
• Expand interests by introducing new toys or games or incorporate preferred items into play activities. 
• Work on foundational skills such as imitation and matching that may help with play.

Play should be fun for both you and your child. If you need more ideas, read about building interest in toys and games.

https://www.marcus.org/autism-resources/autism-tips-and-resources/promoting-early-play-skills