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Children take everything literally and the way you talk to them goes a long way in building their personality.
Unfortunately, a child’s mind is not developed enough to understand that these were unintentional and as a result, it cripples their little minds.
The only way we can avoid this from happening is, by carefully monitoring what we speak to and in front of our children.
So here are the 10 things that you should definitely refrain from saying to your child.
1. ‘You are a bad boy/girl’
Never feed your child with negative thoughts, it kills his/her self-esteem. Kids are innocent and believe in goodness. Always tell them to be good, happy, and positive.
Explain to them that some words or actions are bad and might hurt or harm somebody. But don’t tell them that it makes them a bad boy/girl.
Teach them what is right and wrong, and to value good things over bad.
2. ‘Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?’
Never compare your children with their brother/sister. It makes them jealous. They will feel left out. It drives the feeling of failure in your kids and develops dislike between siblings.
3. A straight ‘NO’
If kids hear ‘no’ all the time, they lose confidence and faith in their parents. If you don’t approve of your child’s action, try giving options.
Instead of “Don’t play in the house,” tell him/her “Why don’t you call your friends to the park and play.”
4. ‘You can’t do this!’
There will be times when children would want to do something that you know they won’t be able to do. Just remember to give them a chance as long as it doesn’t harm them.
Kids learn through trial and error. However they’ll never try anything new, if you’ve made them afraid to try.
5. ‘Don’t talk to me’
Never ask children to stop talking or arguing. Let them question and share their opinion freely. Rather talk to them if you want them to stick to your advice.
Tell them what they are supposed to do and why it’s important.
Convince them with your words, tone, and expressions. Yes, keep talking and listening till they buy your point.
6. ‘Girls/Boys don’t do that’
A child is a child, so let him/her be. Don’t create gender-biased rules.
Let kids decide for themselves — whether to be more like a girl or a boy when they grow up. Don’t stop them from exploring things they may be curious about or good at.
7. ‘No one wants a kid like you’
They are a reflection of the parents.
They have learnt everything from their parents, family, friends, and surroundings.
So if you think your child isn’t behaving properly, remember, he/she didn’t choose to be in the world that surrounds.
You chose that world!
8. ‘You are too big to do this!’
Don’t deprive your kid of childhood.
Kids will grow up, what’s the hurry? Instead, be like them and see if it makes them more comfortable and happy.
As a parent, it’s our responsibility to make them happy, secure, and confident to face the world.